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Porn Addiction? Help and Hope for You or a Loved OnePhilip G. Monroe, PsyDBiblical Seminarypmonroe@biblical.eduCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
www.biblical.eduDegrees:• MA in Counseling• MA, Ministry (Counseling Concentration)• MDiv • Urban MDiv• DMinCertificates:• Biblical Counseling• Advanced Professional CounselingOn-line CoursesCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
TopicsHow porn harmsWhy we get stuck Identifying cycles and escapesQ & A Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Addiction? Sin? “Never give way to reverie, imaginations or thinking over which you have no control; to do so is the surest way to slip into a relapse.Few of us realize the power God has given us to grip on the threshold of the mind as in a vice the things that ought not to be there.” Oswald Chambers: Notes on Jeremiah, p. 1396 (Jer. 4:14) Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
How Porn HarmsYour brain can’t tell the difference between “real” sex and porn It harms relationships with others It deadens your faithCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Why We Get StuckThe process of getting stuckSeeking the wrong goalCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
The Process Addiction is a body, spirit, and will problem Sin is both chosen and irresistible We are made to desire God and creation. But since sin enters the world, We long for things that are out of reach These unfulfilled longings are painful We often turn good desires into demands We desire too little rather than too much We choose behavior management rather than transformationCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Sex: A Powerful DesireWhy is Song of Solomon in the bible? Why detail the erotic longings of a couple? Notice two emphases▪ Sex is a most powerful desire—and good▪ Sex is something not to be awakened before its timeCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
The Descent of DesireBondageSinTragedyFoolishnessFriendshipInfatuationBetrayalWorshipAdapted from Addictions: A banquet in the grave (E. Welch)Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
BONDAGE!Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Waking Up Dead?Ezekiel 23 Two young virgin women have become prostitutes and used▪ One is given over to destruction, the other sees but does not seem to care “…So you longed for the lewdness of your youth, when in Egypt your bosom was caressed and your young breasts fondled.”Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
How Addictions Start It starts with me! (Hint, it is not really about the sex!) What makes me feel special? What fulfills me? What stops the pain? Sex becomes the means to get what I want Indulgence out of control behavior failed efforts to limit or stop increasing obsessions mood changes neglect of important things self-loathing/suicidal thinkingCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
2 Types of AddictionsEscapist Tends to be Internet, video or object based (may avoid actual sexual contact with others) with masturbationRelational Anonymous encounters, multiple partners, voyeurism, exhibitionism, pedophilia, power encounters Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
The Wrong GoalWanting Jesus to be your substitute for porn!Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.David White: Sexual Sanity for Men
The Cycle of Addiction1. Common cycle of abstinence to addiction2. Learning the cycle of addiction helps to seea. temptations, vulnerabilities, and b. ways of escapeCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Trigger(s)Abstinence“Never again”Tempting ThoughtsIndulge“I can handle it”Defeated InterpretationsPenanceSUDSGuiltThe Cycle of AddictionAdapted from Patrick CarnesCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Escapes: The Path to Freedom1. Breaking the cycle2. Uncovering deception, seeking light3. Understanding the root issues4. Recovering Godly desire5. Restoring broken relationshipsCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Trigger(s)Abstinence“Never again”Tempting ThoughtsIndulge“I can handle it”Defeated InterpretationsPenanceSUDSGuilt1. Breaking the Cycle of AddictionCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
2 & 3. Uncovering Deceptions And Root IssuesDeceptions All sin starts with self and other deception Most addicts are aware of the “big” deceptions but fail to recognize the “little” ones that happen daily Recovery is like waking up from a comaRoot issues Must haves? Needs? Desires? Practiced habits? Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Some Questions For You What motivates me to get better or to seek help? Am I ambivalent about change? How truthful have I been since discovered? Do I accept intrusions into my privacy? Do I demand others trust me? What is my record for saying no to temptation? What other problems need to be addressed? Do I see the roots of my sexual behavior? What human resources are available to me? Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
4. Recovery of Godly DesireEngage in the battle against distorted affectionsDoing violence against addictions: A response to God’s graceSurround yourselves with wise counselorsDelight in the fear of the LordEngage the battle at the level of imaginationSpeak honestly, uncover subtle liesRemember God’s commitment to youAdapted from Addictions: A banquet in the grave (E. Welch)Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
BONDAGE!Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Breaking Self-Deception Fight for truth! (Self-deception is the gateway sin) Challenge! Having thoughts of self other than we want to have Identity as lost sheep Recognition of vulnerability to “finding” ourselves BONDAGECopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Proper Worship Practicing proper meditations Meditating on 1 thing Looking beyond self to God/other Example: What do you think about when you wake up in the night? BONDAGECopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Habit Change Protecting good habits; building new Doing violence to bad habits Using all the means of grace/mercy (spiritual, biological, communal, economical, etc.)BONDAGECopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
5. Restoring RelationshipsHonest admission (forever!)Sacrificial efforts to repair (Check out Zaccheus in Luke 19)Acceptance (with joy) discipline and limitsNo demands to be trusted but desire to “restore the years the locusts have taken” via listeningCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Practical First StepsMake no long term decisionsShort-term decisions should focus on protection/safety for allAssess scope of the problem Frequency, duration, intensity Response of addict? Family? Resources available; commitment to help-seeking?Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
External HelpsElectronic accountability (tracker/filter) Covenant Eyes? Bsafe? XXXChurchOn-line care? www.purelifeministries.orgSupport groups? HarvestUSA (www.harvestusa.org)Psychiatric and counseling helps? Inpatient?Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Counseling? Deal with shame, encourage hope despite ashes Explore roots, shoots, fruits of addiction (cycle)▪ Denial, self-deception, impulsivity, complacency?▪ Self-talk? Validate desires and seek to deal with them in godly manner Offer accountability and practical ideas Point out victory!Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
If You are the Helper?Set the stage for work together Validate, explore, build trust, provide safety Balance teaching, exploration, and honest responsesUncover denial/deception and recognition of divided loyalties (in love) Offer accountability Focus on commitment strategiesWatch your own life!Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Finally…Don’t forget that God is doing a work in both addict and loved one! That ALL sin separates us from God That helper and addict both need GRACE That the Christian life is an opportunity to ▪ Address heart issues, uncover denial, and complacency▪ See God’s hand in a broken worldCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate. Harry Schaumburg William Struthers
Local: www.harvestusa.orgCopyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.
Questions?Copyright, Philip G. Monroe, PsyD. Request permission to quote or dublicate.www.wisecounsel.wordpress.com